“My client, Emery Power, understands only one thing - action! But it is useless to dispense energy by unnecessary action. There is a golden rule in life, Georges, never do anything yourself that others can do for you.”—
Hercule Poirot, in The Apples of the Hesperides by Agatha Christie. (via lareinaperdida)
I would say quite the opposite. Never get anyone else to do anything that you can do yourself. If you don’t know how to do it, but it’s easy to learn, then learn it. Be as independent as you can be, and you won’t have to run into unnecessary problems with others.
I have a pretty strict circle of friends in the sense that, I don’t let just anyone in, I am very careful with the friends I choose, and I was thinking about the qualities that all my friends have in common and came to these:
Honesty: I have to be able to trust my friends, without trust I can never consider someone a friend. Hence why honesty is so important, not in the sense that they reveal everything about themselves, everyone has secrets and they are entitled to them. I mean honesty in the sense that they express how they really feel about something, I don’t want a politically correct response in order to please others, I want a response that they actually believe.
Self awareness: A friend has to be aware of themselves in the sense that they are individuals doing what they want, rather than sheep that are just following what society expects of them.
Character: A friend absolutely must have their own character that they developed themselves, I can’t stand try-hards or wannabes and definitely no fake people.
Consideration: A friend should always consider what others want, need and feel before making a decision or taking action that will involve others. People who just do things and expect everyone else to follow annoy me, and people who don’t compromise for you as you do for them are selfish.
These are what my friends have in common, I don’t look for specific qualities, just those 4 general criteria…but it is rare to find people like this.